Forget IQ; It's EQ that Matters Most

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The rules of society have changed as far as courtesy is concerned. What do I mean by that? Let’s say your neighbor started a party on Sunday afternoon, but it is now Monday morning at 1:30 am and there are a few heavy partiers still lighting fireworks, and listening to loud music. You need to get up for work early, and as far as you remember, it was courteous to keep the noise down to a minimum after 10:00 pm so people can sleep. If you go to your neighbor’s house to ask him to please keep it down, you are now being the rude person! In today’s society, you are being self-centered by expecting a great party to keep it down after 10:00 pm!

Or, suppose you and your spouse go to a nice, expensive restaurant one evening and at one of the tables nearby is a couple who brought their two-year-old son who has been screaming and crying the entire dinner. The other couple doesn’t seem to be doing anything to keep the child quiet and if this were McDonald’s it would be okay to bring a noisy child to dinner. But as far as you remember, it was courteous to at least quiet down or remove a screaming child from the table at an expensive restaurant. If you complain or expect the other couple to do something about the screaming two-year-old, you are being the rude and self-centered person. The rules of society have changed! But I wonder if that same couple, years later, would follow the same rule and be okay with another couple leaving their screaming kid in an expensive restaurant. Or would they now expect some courtesy and expect differently?

I am taking a critical thinking class by a professor who is a clinical psychologist. In a recent lecture, he introduced a concept of EQ which basically over-shadowed the traditional IQ as a measurement for intelligence. I’m not sure if my introduction above has anything to do with EQ, but half-way through the lecture, I was delighted to hear that the 5 characteristics of someone with high EQ matched people with courteous and thoughtful attitudes. It was like a small beacon of light of promise in a world where rudeness prevails… being rude gets results… and people are learning not to care about other people. Today’s column is a summary of the 5 characteristics of high EQ

 Forget IQ; It's EQ that Matters Most

For decades, the primary test and measurement for intelligence was the IQ test. The higher your IQ score, the higher your intelligence. IQ measures how fast someone’s brain can process information, memorize series of numbers and answer trivial questions such as “How long did the Civil war last?”, “Who was the 23rd president of the United States?” The theory is if someone can retain that much information and process information at a high speed, then the amount of intelligence must be great.

IQ cannot be developed. You are born with a certain amount of IQ and that is all you are going to have. And as you age, your IQ decreases – unless of course you continue to challenge your brain throughout your lifetime.

Intelligence has been associated with an ability to make money and be successful. So naturally, someone with a high IQ would be considered someone most likely to be successful. Look at the high school yearbooks. They usually have recognitions such as “person most likely to succeed”. These assumptions are usually based on how well the student did in high school.

Define success: we could say it is the ability to be happy. Recently, studies suggest that IQ has absolutely nothing to do with success and personal happiness. The new thinking is that IQ is similar to rating how fast a CPU processes data. A new measurement called EQ (emotional intelligence) just might be the gage that determines how successful and happy someone can be. And guess what? Unlike IQ, EQ can be developed throughout your lifetime! It can also be taught by parents, teachers, and peers.

EQ can be defined as an ability to be aware of ones feelings and emotions as well as the feelings and emotions of other people. With this awareness, someone with high EQ can control his or her actions and ultimately take control of his or her own life. 

There are 5 elements of EQ: self awareness, self control, delay of gratification, empathy, and social skills revolving around an awareness of others. The elements can be further classified so that EQ becomes a two-tiered model containing Intrapersonal skills and Interpersonal skills.

Intrapersonal Skills

Self Awareness

Self Control

Delay of Gratification

Interpersonal Skills:

Empathy

Awareness of Others

Self Awareness: A simple thing like paying attention to what is going on inside of you and knowing how it is that you feel can be an important step to developing EQ. Many people are not consciously aware that today “they are a little irked from what the boss said at the meeting”, or “maybe a little nervous about meeting that important client at the end of the week”.

Jill went about the whole day at work being short with some of her co-workers. She never took the time to think that later in the week she had an important sales presentation and was a little nervous and this was manifesting itself by being short with co-workers.

Jane on the other hand was in a really bad mood while driving home from work. She realized that being that she lost an important account for the company, it was making her feel worthless. She actually went home and told her husband of the bad news instead of keeping her feelings buried in her subconscious for them to manifest later.

Self Control: Conquering thoughts or emotions that could create obstacles in attaining happiness and success is another characteristic of someone with high EQ. Okay, you are in a bad mood from work, but do you really need to take it out on the spouse and kids at home?

Some things got John upset at the office today. He knew he had a bad day, but when he went home, he yelled at his wife for not having dinner ready on time and severely scolded his kid for not taking out the garbage. It made for a bad evening.

Steve on the other hand came home from a bad day and made sure he was nice to his family despite the way he felt from work. Being home with his family and keeping things peaceful actually made him feel better before going to bed.

Delay of Gratification: Many people are in tune with instant gratification. The need to seek out pleasure now is a natural human instinct. But a characteristic of high EQ is an ability to put off a pleasurable experience now for a higher cause or reward later.

Jim stops at a local bar on the way home from work and decides to have a few drinks after his long day at work. He knows that he’s been trying to cut back on drinking and promised his wife not to drink heavily – much less drink on a Tuesday afternoon. But once he has a few drinks, he ends up drinking more and gets hammered! How can he conquer his drinking problem without delay of gratification?

Betty on the other hand sticks with her diet despite the fact that her co-workers are all going to Taco Bell for lunch. She would love to pig out on half-dozen tacos and probably more, but she stays at the office and has her brown bag lunch with healthier food.

Empathy: Everyone is born with a natural inclination to be empathetic. If you go to a day care and a child falls down and cries, the other children who come from nurturing environments will surround the crying child to see if he or she is okay. But if the daycare is in an environment where moms and dads are not so nurturing, the other kids will not go to see if the fallen child is okay. In fact, some of the un-nurtured kids will approach the crying child and tell him or her to shut up, even slap the crying child!

Mary comes back to work after grieving the loss of her mother. No sooner does she sit down at her desk, her boss slaps a stack of papers down and tells her the assignments due and to hurry up because they fell behind while she was gone. He never even extended sympathy for the loss of her mother!

Minutes later, some of Mary’s co-workers approach her and extended their sympathies for the loss of her mother. And although Mary refused, her co-workers offered to take some of her assignments so she can catch up and let her know they can help if needed.

Social Skills (being aware of others): You are at a party with a mixed group of people all having different beliefs and values. If you are sensible, you know of the standards and etiquette used when engaging in discussion. You must be considerate of those around you and contemplate whether something you say could upset someone. And I’m sure you’ve seen them, but there are plenty of people out there who don’t do this!

Mark is standing with a group of people at a party and a discussion begins about a recent bank robbery down the street. Because the suspects at large are two black men, Mark makes a comment that if we get rid of all the black people in this country we’ll be better off. He never considered that Susan standing with the group of people had a black husband! And to top it off, her husband was a police officer!

Carl gets up from the table during a dinner with friends and steps outside to take a phone call. Rather than drown out the dinner discussion and gross out his friends with the details of his colonoscopy, he steps outside to quietly discuss the results with his doctor. And no, he doesn’t return talking about the details during dinner!

NEWSWEEK Feb26-Mar3, 4022--America In Crisis!

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And now lets talk about the future. There was once a time when science fiction writers wrote about the future. Home computers, massive Internet connections, regular trips into space. Guess what? The future is already here! What about tomorrow? Has technology gone so far that we can hardly imagine what the next couple of centuries will bring? One author has fallen short of his predictions on the future. Arthur C. Clarke promised that by 2001 we would have computers that are self aware and self creating. In his book 2001 Space Odyssey, which was later turned into a movie, the HAL9000 computer was fully self aware and functioned like a human brain. So why haven’t we seen this sort of thing? Oh well, I’m sure that will eventually be made possible… 

NEWSWEEK Feb26-Mar3, 4022--America In Crisis!

Thousands of androids and supporters marched outside the nation's Capitol this week demanding equal rights for androids. The androids claim that the time has come for them to be accepted as humans. 

These are highly developed robots that are so human like that it is difficult to notice that they are machines. But these are not ordinary machines. These androids eat, sleep, they are warm to the touch, they have emotions, and many of them have complex human relationships with humans. 

One of the latest trends is for humans to marry an android; a highly controversial institution which has caused many marches in itself. In fact, many of the androids that marching outside the Capitol are accompanied by their spouses. They demand the right to breed with humans. The technology is there, and science is advanced enough to allow this. 

Just yesterday it was discovered that for over a decade, human to android hybrids have been created in an underground laboratory in Los Angeles. It is unclear as to just how many human to android hybrids are living out in society.

So what is America going to do with this crisis? There is a large percentage of the American population that still view androids as machines. And the thought of breeding with them is an outrage. Let’s look at the history of the development of these complex androids.

2005: Scientists and technologists have perfected the synthesis of human walking for mobile robots. After this date, walking robots were made available for commercial and industrial use.

2026: The first self aware microprocessor is made available to consumers world wide. In honor of Arthur C. Clarke’s 2001 Space Odyssey, the product is called the HAL9000. Businesses put this processor to use for advertising, marketing, music composition

Boils on the Brain

Boils on the Brain 

Boils have been known to stop the flow of blood throughout the brain which causes severe madness. Normally it is caused by the full moon, fever, or even spells cast by a witch. Follow these remedies to treat any boils you may encounter.

1 BOIL:

BEHAVIOR: Behavior is somewhat irrational. The patient may be slightly mistrusting of other people or even accuse other people of things. Mood shifts can occur without warning.

REMEDY: Is the moon full? If so, wait until it is no longer full, and see if this affects the patient. Sometimes administering tea or wine to the patient helps eliminate the boil. Surgery should not be done for just 1 boil.

2-3 BOILS:

BEHAVIOR: Patient regularly slips in and out of reality. One moment the patient is fine, and the next minute is very dangerous. Extreme emotional outbursts can accompany as well as complaints of extreme headache pain. 

REMEDY: Treat the patient for fever. The boils could be brought on by some illness. Sometimes hanging the patient up-side-down for 12 - 15 hours causes some of the boils to disappear. Beat the patient with a whip in case the devil has gotten into him/her.

3-5 BOILS:

BEHAVIOR: Patient suffers from convulsions and foaming at the mouth. Patient is completely out of touch with reality and does not recognize familiar people. 

REMEDY: 1st, verify that a witch has not cast an evil spell on the patient. Do this by sending the townspeople on a witch hunt, and when you find her, burn her at the stake. If the patient holds a political office, find 3-5 witches and burn them at the stake. If the patient still does not improve, you must perform surgery. Using an iron stake, drive 3 holes in the skull to the center of the head. This should puncture and drain the boils.

Planet 133gx

 Planet 133gx

When National Geographic magazine first started publishing in the late 1800’s, humanity had yet to leave the ground by airplane. As the 20th century began to draw to a close, National Geographic followed the exciting pioneer days of space exploration. We reported the first moon landing, the flybys of the Voyager spacecraft, and the troubled missions of the Mir international space station. In those days accomplishments like that were fantastic. But if the people in the 20th century ever had a glimpse of what we are doing now in 2360, rest assured they would have been blown away!

Dozens of extra solar planets in dozens of solar systems have not only been discovered, but each one has been explored, mapped, and is currently being actively studied by scientists living on them. Animal life as well as primate creatures have been discovered on some of them. We have yet to establish contact with an intelligent extraterrestrial civilization, but archaeologists have found evidence of ancient civilizations living on some of these newly discovered planets. 

So here I travel on this elaborate luxury star cruiser to one of these planets that once contained intelligent civilization. In the 20th century, space travel was only done by specialized, hand picked astronauts. Today children can get on a flight shuttle for only pocket change, and travel to the moon for the afternoon. They can visit their favorite museums and shops, and still be home in time for dinner. Interstellar space travel is even nicer. I am aboard the U.S Majestic Star Cruiser having the time of my life. Complete with all the luxuries of a vacation ocean cruiser, I forget that I am traveling through the depths of space. But then I guess reporters for National Geographic never feel that they are working.

So what is my job this time? I am here with a team of scientists, archaeologists, geographers, explorers, and 1 free lance adventurer. I haven’t seen any of them since we took off for planet 133gx in the Alderbaron star system. For over a week it has been a vacation for myself and my family. And I’m sure that the rest of the team and their families feel the same way. But today is different. For the first time we are meeting and discussing the mission. The air is tense, and for the first time we have doubts if what we are about to do is possible. Perhaps we could killed

In 2219, archaeologist Dr. Simon discovered that an ancient civilization once existed on planet 133gx. Complete with the ruins of villages, simple tools, bones, and even writings from these people, Dr. Simon concluded that “people” once lived here. He was part of a team which utilized a hieroglyphics specialist who through time successfully deciphered the ancient writings and drawings of these “people”. 

One of the unique features of planet 133gx is that it is orbited by an extremely close moon. So close in fact that scientists are baffled that the moon has never collided with 133gx from the massive gravitational tug-of-war. There is a 2200 foot mountain on this planet that supposedly played an important role to these ancient people. 

According to the deciphered writings, priests would bring young men to the top of the mountain for a ritual that would prove their manhood. By the time the young men reached the top of mountain, the full moon should have been directly overhead. The priests felt as if the gods worked magic at the time that the full moon was over head. They claimed if they jumped up, the moon would pull the team up into the sky, and onto another world. The priests and young men stayed on this other world for approximately a month fasting and performing rituals until the moon was once again over the 133gx mountain peak. At that time, if the gods were pleased, the priest and young men could jump off the other world and back onto the mountain range to descend back to the ground. In short, scientists feel that the gravitational tug-of-war cancelled out gravity and allowed the ancient people to “fly” to the moon when on the mountain top!

But did this really happen? Or is this some kind of legend?  Worst yet an incorrect deciphering made in 2219 may be the explanation. This is why we are here. The only way we can prove if this gravitational-tug-of war allows people to fly to the moon, is to try it. And at today’s first meeting while traveling to 133gx, our team is beginning to express doubts. That’s probably why National Geographic decided to let one of their free lance adventurers and photographers head the team. He is very experienced and knows how to stay calm under dangerous conditions. He seems to be the only one not breaking a sweat at this meeting.

The Two Foot Tall Man

 Saturday night I stepped outside to let our dog out. As we walked around my apartment building, I stopped dead in my tracks to see the most strangest sight! I saw a tiny man, no larger that two feet tall and no wider than 3 inches. I laughed at such a bizarre creature, but I think I frightened him. He suddenly disguised himself as a utility box. 

I ran back into my apartment laughing hysterically and told my wife what I had just seen. 

"Whatever! Go to bed! You are over-tired!". 

Aliens and Quartz Induced False Memories

 Aliens and Quartz Induced False Memories

Deep within the ground of certain areas are layers that are made of tons of quartz. This is nothing unusual. The Earth has layers of iron, coal, nickel, sand, copper, etc. in other areas. Many of us in the electronics industry know that when quartz is broken or compressed, the result is an external charge of various frequencies. We use this process in certain electronic products today. Many times there is a minute shifting underneath the ground. When this happens in a region that contains layers of quartz, the obvious happens. Some of it gets compressed in another direction or even broken. We are talking tons of this element being broken and compressed within seconds. Imagine the charge that would be generated! So what is so special about all of this?

Psychological research has demonstrated that when the bandwidth and charge of these quartz crystals is applied to a persons head, an area called the Temporal Lobe in the brain is affected. The Temporal Lobe is responsible for generating certain memories including sensory memories. The Temporal Lobe is even responsible for letting you know that you are with company or in the presence of other people. 

Volunteers allowed themselves to be strapped into a chair with electrodes attached to their heads and brain monitoring equipment. The lights were shut off, and the volunteers closed their eyes and let their minds relax. Obviously they had to be fully awake for this experiment as if not to fall asleep! After some time, the researchers generated the high frequency and low electric charge present in quartz when compressed or broken. The result was astounding! Some of the volunteers began to feel uncomfortable because they felt as if someone was sneaking up behind them in the room. None of the researchers entered the room. Some of the volunteers tried to "mentally reach out" and figure out what was going on. "Who is in here?" What is going to happen next?" They experienced very strange and uneasy feelings. Some of them even began to see strange, skinny, grayish, clay like people in their minds. One volunteer became terrified and aborted the experiment.

If this is the result of a low charge signal applied to the brain, what would be the result of tons of quartz being broken in an instant underneath the ground? What kind of strange feelings and memories would this cause someone to have above ground in an area where this happens? Perhaps we could conclude that the Hills passed through a region dense in underground quartz. Maybe that night a small shifting underground took place and forged the most bizarre and frightening memories for Betty & Barney Hill.

Future Issues and_Wormhole

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    I have enclosed a list of some future topics that I will be discussing. Some of them may appear in this week's issues:

-Real Life Story! With a shoestring budget and all the outside pressure not to fulfill his dreams, John Kraus built a one of the world's most efficient radio telescopes that may have received signals from an extra terrestrial civilization. 

-An appointment with a extra terrestrial visitors: A fictional story of a man who contacted aliens with his ham radio and set an appointment to meet them.

-They believe they come from the planet Venus: Forget the famous book "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus"! This is a bizarre society of men and women that actually believe they come from the planet Venus!

-Welcome in the winter sky with me: Scheduled for around Thanksgiving. This issue will familiarize you with the winter night sky and make a very special Thanksgiving ritual to enjoy year after year.

-Your ticket to the top: Fed up with the corporate bull? Waiting for your chance to leave Motorola behind and develop an exciting new product? This communication product allows the user to listen to thousands of Internet radio stations while driving in the car! The best part; it uses simple, inexpensive, "old world" technology. Anyone ever think about starting a business?

-UFO abductions. What's the deal?: All extra terrestrial theories behind; just what does happen to the victims of a UFO abduction?

-Lucid dreaming and the various gates of attainment: Some people claim to have what are called out-of-body experiences. Learn how you can jump on this latest craze of lucid dreaming. Use the same techniques as outlined in the "Tibetan Book of the Dead".

-People you can meet from other worlds: With the use of quartz crystals, I was able to contact a strange entity named Lunia. Hear my account of his strange world and the other places you won't believe that I have visited!

-Mars! The final Issue: Okay, maybe it won't be a mind blower. But the final issue will bring to light the possibility of an advanced civilization existing on Mars today.

Worm Holes

A story that I once heard and was never quite sure if it was real or made up had me terrified of worm holes. For those who do not know, a worm hole is an opening in the time space continuum that connects to another place and time in the cosmos. A 4th dimensional model to illustrate this theory would be to tear two holes in a dinner napkin at adjacent ends and then bring the two together momentarily. Pretending that the dinner napkin was the entire universe, we could conclude that a traveler would have no need to travel for thousands of years in a rocket ship. All that is needed is to open up a worm hole. The question is "How?". I will be doing some research into time travel theory and hyperspace travel. Hopefully we will have some interesting Mind Altering Stimuli to put on the table and discuss. For now, here is a story that I once heard just to get our creative juices flowing.

A woman was making dinner one evening while her daughter watched TV in the living room. It was a hot summer day, the kitchen was very hot from cooking, and the living room was bathed in radiation and sound from the girl watching TV. Suddenly the woman heard her daughter screaming in fear. "Mommy look! Come hear, quick!" The mother ran to the living room to see her daughter standing near a shimmering vortex of light and distant sounds. As she grabbed her daughter to protect her they were both engulfed by this vortex and found themselves in another family's apartment in another state hundreds of miles away! The whole ordeal was traumatic for both parties involved in this incident. It launched a police investigation with no answers. The Mother and child were on watch for the next several months.

One theory is that the intense heat in the home combined with radiation and sound of the TV opened up a worm hole to another family's apartment. With no scientific proof the theory was obviously thrown out. But the story ends with a very chilling and haunting reality.

One afternoon the local police drove by the womans house to see if all was well. The house was not there! No house, no grass, no fence, no drive way! As the officer stepped out of his vehicle to further examine he couldn't even see a foundation where the house once stood. There wasn't even evidence of house once being there! Nobody ever knew what happened to the woman and her child much less the house. Ever since I heard this story, I developed an intense fear of automatic worm holes!